Teenagers v. Midlifers
The shrug. In a teenager, it’s usually pretty annoying. I remember those Mama years when I’d try to spur a conversation with one of my kids, only to receive a shrug in response. It made me want to pull my hair out sometimes! But in this season of life, the Midlife Shrug is a sign of maturity, and it is something to be practiced.
Unlike the teenage shrug, the Midlife Shrug isn’t a sign of indifference, but of acceptance. It is a sign of strength, not weakness. The Midlife Shrug is a physical demonstration of our mental resolve to not let the little things to knock us off-balance. It testifies to our refusal to allow the enemy steal our joy with his attempts at frustrating our plans.
Be Open To Change
A year ago this month, I wrote another blog on this same topic, entitled Sometimes We Just Need To Say, “Oh, Well.” (I think it’s worth re-reading, even if I do say so myself. I hope you’ll take a minute to check it out.) Back then, I was facing some big stuff: worry about a loved one, and grief for family members who were suffering deep loss. But these past few days, my focus has been on little things like planning and time management. It must be the right thing for me to be thinking on right now, because God has been giving me little God signs left and right! And I’m guessing if it’s an issue for me, it’s an issue for many of you, too.
Even yesterday in my Facebook livestream, I talked about how God has been holding me accountable to my birthday declaration back in August to make my 52nd year My Year of Intentional Living. In the past few days alone, a couple of my daily devotions and a coaching call have all centered around planning. (God isn’t always subtle, is He?) After a rather lackadaisical approach to planning over the Summer, I’m returning to a more focused approach this Fall. But it’s very clear that God is telling me to not try to plan every little detail, because my best plan may not be His best plan. While planning is good, I always need to be open to accepting His change of plans.
In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps. – Proverbs 16:9
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
So I guess what I’m saying is this: Don’t sweat the small stuff. Go ahead and plan out your day, but if the enemy tries to waylay those plans, practice the Midlife Shrug. Take a deep breath, say a little prayer, and look to God for His perspective. Don’t be so attached to your plans that you let a little disruption ruin your whole day. Do what you need to to get back on track and keep moving forward.
Easier said than done sometimes, I know. But like everything else: It’s a process. You and God got this, gf. And remember….
Extend grace. Receive grace.