TODAY……oh, gf….today we get down to the nitty-gritty of building a midlife capsule wardrobe. It is THE most important part!!  Yesterday I explained the WHY behind the work we’ll start today. Remember….it’s all a process….so no pressure. (Really!) Let’s get to work. 🙂

4 Questions To Ask When Building A Midlife Capsule Wardrobe

As we go begin the actual process of building our capsule wardrobe, we will identify colors and styles we are gravitate to, and determine the core clothing pieces that truly represent who we are: fabulous women in midlife! We start by asking ourselves 4 crucial questions.

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1. What do I feel most comfortable in?

Whatever you feel good in, that’s probably what you look best in.

“Know, first, who you are; and then adorn yourself accordingly.” – Epictetus (Greek philosopher)

There are exceptions to this rule, of course. Ever watched that TV show where they hijack some woman’s closet and have her model her current wardrobe in the 3-way mirror…then they tell her how horrible it all looks and toss everything out? I’m not talking about those people. *giggle* The positive, however, is they really do have her own good in mind. They teach her to shop for core pieces that flatter her and are comfortable. That’s what we’re going for here, gf.

If you buy a top but constantly pull at the neckline….it’s not right for you. If you worry about how your butt looks in your new pants….they are not right for you. But when you find a pants you feel fabulous in…buy them…in multiple colors, if you want! Seriously. We’re going for simple comfort here, remember? 😉

2. What gets me the most compliments?

When you feel confident wearing something, people notice…and they usually compliment you on it. These are pieces you’ll build off of.

Have a compliment-worthy blouse? You’ll want 2 or 3 skirts and/or pants that pair nicely with it.

It’s not just about clothes, though. If you always receive compliments when you wear your favorite scarf, you want to make certain you have a few tops to wear with it. Or make sure you have multiple tops with those same colors. They’re obviously complimentary to you skin tone. 😉

3. What doesn’t work for me?

You will save so much time  trying to figure out what to wear if you don’t have to sort through all the I-don’t-like-the-way-that-fits, or the I’m-so-tired-of-that pieces. If you love what’s in your closet, choosing what to wear will be a snap!

Even with fewer clothes, you’ll always look good, and feel good. Win-win!

4. Is this age-appropriate for me?

Once you’re over 40, it’s time to dress age-appropriately. We don’t have to dress like our grandmothers, but we shouldn’t be dressing like our daughters, either.  It’s time we own our age, gf! We should be wearing clothes that compliment our figure and draw attention to our well-deserved maturity and class.

Mini skirts and bare legs are out. Maybe you could pair it with some fun footless tights or leggings….but be careful with that, Madonna *wink*

Tees and leggings? Unless you’re in shape (not a category I fall into myself…but I’m working on it this year), there are all sorts of fabulous tunic tops out there that will cover your bum and belly. Comfort can be stylish! 😉 (I know a place that has LOTS of fabulous stuff for women in midlife. Read about it here!)

Your Homework

  • Start a Capsule Wardrobe Vision Board on Pinterest
  • Answer the 4 questions above.
    • Go to your closet and jot down your answers quickly.
    • Go with your “gut”! That’s usually the most honest. 😉
  • Cull your closet.
    • NOTE: This is probably THE most difficult part of building a capsule wardrobe….but I know you can do it, gf! 🙂
    • Do laundry beforehand. You don’t want to miss anything in the dirty clothes basket.
    • Block off 1-2 hours.
      • Don’t rush it; this is your “truth” moment.
      • Ask a gf to help you with this step if you’re hesitant. She may have some insight your not aware of.
        • GF’s: Be gentle, but honest. And bring wine to celebrate your friend for tackling this daunting task. 😉Block off 1-2 hours for this.
    • Remove everything so you have a blank canvas. (Remember all that clutter hindering your view? Yeah….lose that.)
      • Keep it if….
        • You LOVE it and it fits! (That was easy, huh? *giggle*)
        • You’re not thrilled with it….but it would leave a big void in your wardrobe if you ditched it right now.
          • Make a note to replace this/these item(s) ASAP.
      • It goes if…..
        • You don’t like it anymore. (Say thanks and move on. 😉 )
        • You didn’t wear it last year. (Or has it been even longer than that? *raises one eyebrow at gf* )
        • Quickly decide if you want to sell, donate, or trash these items. Bag ’em up and put them in the car right now.
      • Set it aside if….
        • You LOVE it….but it doesn’t fit anymore. *pout*
          • Ask the hard question: Are you willing to do the work to get back into it….or is it time to pass it on to someone who can wear & appreciate it?
        • You have an emotional attachment to it even though you don’t wear it. (ie. sweater Grandma gave you, necklace your husband gave you…)
          • Would it suffice to have your gf take your picture wearing it and keep that as a momento, rather than the actual article of clothing?
        • Pack this/these item(s) in a storage container and put them in the basement or wherever right now.

Whew…….that was hard, wasn’t it? I am SO proud of you, gf!! 🙂

Until we meet again next week, live with your “culled” closet. It may take some getting used to when you walk in and see fewer clothes in your closet. Just breathe! 😉 Instead of freaking out…congratulate yourself on being courageous for taking this big step forward! And think about how much simpler getting dressed will be now. And it’s only going to get better! 🙂

And remember…




NEXT WEEK: Part 3 – Making Your Shopping List

*happy dance*